1. He will change.
Whether it's that he's a couch potato or overly fond of an ex (HUGE red flag), the excuse you keep having to make towards friends and family is that he'll somehow change. He won't.
2. He's really a nice guy, you just don't know him like I do.
When it's obvious to close friends and family that he doesn't treat you well, and you have to tell others that deep down he's a nice guy, maybe it's time you faced reality.
3. I know he loves me/care about me, you just can't see it.
Care and love by a guy is obvious. He will show it and you won't have to make excuses for him. He shows you that he cares with real gestures of love. If you have to wait for a special day for him to do something romantic, he doesn't.
4. He's busy.
"He has a busy schedule." "He's tired on the weekends". If a guy truly loves your and cares about you, he'll MAKE TIME for you. There are NO exceptions to this.
5. He doesn't say he loves me but I know he does.
Men are obvious, we don't dance around the subject. We may not get touchy feely but if the guy loves you, he'll tell you. If a guy doesn't say he loves you without you prompting him, it's because he doesn't.
6. He's just not that type of guy.
This is usually the answer when friends ask "does he show you he cares?" or "does he take the time to find out what you like?" or "does he care about your [sexual] satisfaction?". If he really wants to be your boyfriend and wants a future with you, he would be.
7. He doesn't know how to do it, but that's ok. (This is in reference to something that is really important to you.)
Whether it's showing he cares or just simply communicating, if the guy doesn't care enough to learn how to do it, it's because he isn't invested in the relationship.
If you or a friend have made these excuses for a current boyfriend, get out. If you have made these excuses for an ex, looking back, is it even a wonder that you're ex's?
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