Don't Expect Change!

The following is an article from Shanghaiist that tells of how Wendy Deng abused and was [emotionally] cheating on Rupert Murdoch: http://shanghaiist.com/2014/02/07/vanity-fair-profile-wendi-deng-rupert-murdoch.php

This is the same as the results we've seen from years of research in psychology/sociology/psychiatry/etc.  People DON'T change!

It's a Team Effort

I've covered a bit on the individuals in a relationship.  But the fact of the matter is the most important aspect of any relationship is how the couple is together.  Many therapists still focus on making the individual person better for the relationship, but in my experience it's better to focus on the relationship of the couple together.  Sounds obvious right?

Don't Break the Cardinal Rule

In order for any relationship to even have a chance, there is one simple cardinal rule: you have to be able to agree, or at the very least, accept the other person's fundamental beliefs.  These things can be very simple and varies greatly from person to person.  You may even clash on a few things, but don't disrespect them.  Or the relationship, will NOT work.  Some examples: